"We wife"? What does that even mean?

In Hunting Wives episode 1, there’s a telling moment at a sunny outdoor brunch where Brittany Snow’s character, Sophie, is trying to get to know the glamorous, insular group of women she’s just met.

With a curious but polite smile, she asks, “So what do you guys do for work?”

There’s a short, almost amused silence — the kind that says the question itself feels foreign in their world. Then one of the women answers, half‑laughing but completely serious:

“We wife.”

It’s delivered lightly, almost playfully, but it lands with weight. In that moment, it becomes clear that in their circle, being a wife is the full‑time job — a curated life of parties, hunting trips, megachurch appearances, keeping up appearances, and carefully concealed affairs.

It’s a small exchange, but it perfectly sets the tone: these women don’t define themselves by careers or creative pursuits — they define themselves by the role they play, and the privilege and performance that come with it.

That scene made me pause and ask myself: How do I wife?

Honestly, I’ve never really stopped to think about it. But maybe I should. Maybe I’ll even share those thoughts in another post soon.

When I mentioned this to ChatGPT, it gently reminded me that “wifeing” doesn’t have to look like what we see on TV. It can be quiet, supportive, stubbornly real. It can mean being a partner, a co‑dreamer, a protector of small daily joys — rather than someone performing a role for others to applaud.

What about you? How do you wife? Or if you’re not married, how would you define it for yourself? I’d love to hear your reflections in the comments.